Financial Stress and Marriage How Money Problems Can Lead to Divorce
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Gav
March 25, 2011 at 5:02 am #
You’re certainly entitled to your preferences, but @belinda, the “if you don’t act the way I prefer you to act, then you’re not a ‘real man’” line is highly obnoxious. I’m happily engaged now, but when I was dating I hated paying for my date. I spent the last few years in law school in NYC, competing for grades, journals and jobs with intense, very smart career women, who many times beat me out for the jobs I wanted. Being expected to buy things for these women – who are my peers and even competitors – always rubbed me the wrong way, to the point where I wouldn’t schedule a second date sometimes if she obviously wanted to pay (some of these dates did the “reach for the wallet thing” but did it incredibly slowly, eying me intently, etc.). It wasn’t a litmus test or anything, but it made me not call again in at least one borderline case.
The obvious solution is to not ask girls on “dates,” especially to dinner, but rather to arrange to hang out or get drunk at a party and just take her home. I don’t have a problem treating someone I’ve already slept with. Dinner dates during the “courtship” phase are generally a low hit rate anyway (this fact, coupled with resentment over being expected to pay, may be related to some women’s complaints about how no one ever asks them on actual dates anymore).
So there’s a workaround. I took one of my hot, overachieving competitors home after a party a few years ago, and we’re getting married in June. But I bought her absolutely nothing until we were hooking up.
Let me be clear and say I’m not mad or anything and I don’t blame you for your preferences – it’s probably nothing you have control over after all. But I do suspect that if American women somehow suddenly dropped, en masse, this particular box from their collective dating checklist, the number “actual dates” happening around here might shoot up. Just a suspicion.
Also – the whole “whoever asked for the date and selected the location should pay” rationale is pretty transparent. Given social realities (and the fact that women love to be led around to cool places), this just means that men should pay.
He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym
He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me
He Didn't Know How to Listen to Her
He Flirts Too Much
Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons
Separate Vacations Don’t Have to Mean Divorce
Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?
Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn’t Want Kids
Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage
First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means
Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid
Gav
March 25, 2011 at 5:02 am #
You’re certainly entitled to your preferences, but @belinda, the “if you don’t act the way I prefer you to act, then you’re not a ‘real man’” line is highly obnoxious. I’m happily engaged now, but when I was dating I hated paying for my date. I spent the last few years in law school in NYC, competing for grades, journals and jobs with intense, very smart career women, who many times beat me out for the jobs I wanted. Being expected to buy things for these women – who are my peers and even competitors – always rubbed me the wrong way, to the point where I wouldn’t schedule a second date sometimes if she obviously wanted to pay (some of these dates did the “reach for the wallet thing” but did it incredibly slowly, eying me intently, etc.). It wasn’t a litmus test or anything, but it made me not call again in at least one borderline case.
The obvious solution is to not ask girls on “dates,” especially to dinner, but rather to arrange to hang out or get drunk at a party and just take her home. I don’t have a problem treating someone I’ve already slept with. Dinner dates during the “courtship” phase are generally a low hit rate anyway (this fact, coupled with resentment over being expected to pay, may be related to some women’s complaints about how no one ever asks them on actual dates anymore).
So there’s a workaround. I took one of my hot, overachieving competitors home after a party a few years ago, and we’re getting married in June. But I bought her absolutely nothing until we were hooking up.
Let me be clear and say I’m not mad or anything and I don’t blame you for your preferences – it’s probably nothing you have control over after all. But I do suspect that if American women somehow suddenly dropped, en masse, this particular box from their collective dating checklist, the number “actual dates” happening around here might shoot up. Just a suspicion.
Also – the whole “whoever asked for the date and selected the location should pay” rationale is pretty transparent. Given social realities (and the fact that women love to be led around to cool places), this just means that men should pay.
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